Okay, whatever happened between you and Levi Johnston, here’s your reality.  You’re now a single parent.  Maybe he left you.  Maybe you left him.  Maybe one or the both of you had cause.  Or not.

I really don’t give a fuck which, and if there is putting back together to be done - assuming you both are willing or wanting - it will, odds on, be long in coming, if ever.

I am a single parent.  So here is brutally honest advice.

Look down at that baby.  That is your child.  Its needs come before your needs.  Its WANTS should be given extra weight against your needs.  This is not to say to indulge the childish whims and demandds of your baby, but one thing is sure - what you want for the next twenty some odd years does not even enter into the picture.

Or you will be a failure as a parent.

You chose this.  You chose this when you chose to have sex, to continue the pregnancy (yes, the dreaded “Abortion” word) and when you chose to keep that baby.  This is your responsibility, along with Levi’s.  Your parents do not owe you squat.  Anything you get from them should be met with slobbering thanks and gratitude, and if your mom and dad decide that they are not up for babysitting or bearing your burden in any way, then that is their right.

If you weren’t ready for this, I have no doubt your mom and dad had the “talk” with you about being sure about being ready before you chose this.  Now is the time to exercise twenty-twenty hindsight and say “Damn.  The folks weren’t such big dummies after all.”

And if you are given anything, first it is in trust for that baby.  You are a steward and morally accountable for it.  You may legally be not accountable, but you can be legal and immoral.  Your choice.

The baby has a father.  The baby has a right to that father.  Whatever goes on between you two, you have no right to deprive your child of that right.  If he chooses to walk away, be fucking sure you didn’t give a nudge, or it will come out, and you will regret it.  Ask my kids.  Better yet, ask their mothers.

In that line, many years back when my daughter had her sixteenth birthday, her mother was badly beind in Child Support (Still is, but…)  The advice I was given was “Which will your daughter prefer more - her mother at her birthday party, or in jail at your hands but you with a child support check in your account?”  Your call again.  Yeah, it’s a bad spot to be in.  You needing money, your ex being behind but still wanting (or wanting to appear) to be involved, and if you go for what you need you will look like the bad guy (Evil Witch in your case) who jailed the other parent and “Kept my Mommy (Daddy) from me when I needed them.”  Sucks to be you.  You ever figure that one out, let me know.  I never did, and I’d welcome the “Huh.  Never made that connection” moment.

You’ve a moral obligation not to be a burden to your family or society.  Set a damn example for your kids, and don’t teach them to be a parasite with a victim mentality.  We have far too many as it is.

Odds are against you, more importantly odds are against that child.  Even with a whole lot of support and love from your family, chances are they will get into more trouble, do worse in school, get involved in drugs - heck, follow in your footsteps.

You’ve also lost a little moral authority by your circumstances; likewise, when you try to instruct that child to avoid your path, you’re vulnerable to charges of hypocrisy.  Count on their friends coaching them.  You’re not so removed from those years yourself.

You’ve years ahead of you of get up, take care of your kid, go to school or work or both, come home, take care of your kid, get your kid to bed, and maybe - if you are lucky - have an hour or so to yourself.  Your social life is a want, not a need.  Your love life is a want, not a need.  And all of this is subject to you being whisked away in the middle of class, at a critical moment, or at a romantic moment.  In all those cases, everyone invloved will look at you and you will be judged as to whom you put first.

Hint:  You have to go home to that child every night.  Guess who wins?  Fair?  LOL!  Who said life was fair?  Liberals would like to legislate such things - but they can’t.  You will be judged.  Get used to it.

Just resolve that there are a hell of a lot of things you are going to want to do and will have to pass on while you raise that child.  Maybe if you do that job right you will have that chance later in life.  Or not.  Some things you just can’t do after age 35 anymore.

Just take my word for that.  Or you can discover it.

Good luck to you.  Well, good luck to your kid.  They didn’t choose this for themselves.

Do try not to bring shame on your parents.