I used to write a lot about Father’s Rights.

This is because I have walked the mile - hell, run the fucking marathon - in those moccasins.  My divorces were typical; wife gets the gold in the mine, I got the shaft.  A few years of screwing me out of thousands (Yeah, paying child support TWICE for the same amount, they knew about it, didn’t care.) and being fucked on visitation.

Something makes my skin crawl about “Visitation.”  Which is why I use the word even though I hate it.  The whole notion of the State making an able parent a mere “:visitor” in their own child’s life should make you want to vomit.

Then my kids came to live with me.  I was struggling at the time; working for the man and trying to hang out my own shingle at the same time.  I’ve waxed almost poetic on that, in great detail, so I won’t repeat it.  Suffice it to say that the same system that lined up so solidly for my ex’s when they had custody were not only nowhere to be found for me, but actively opposed to me, and trying any excuse to kick the struts out from under me.

I’ve lived it.  So morons who haven’t lived it, or personal anecdotes aside, that is the reality of life for the very very vast and very very overwhelming majority of men who finally get custody, or are fighting to be more than a mere “visitor” in the life of their kids.

Now that I have established my bona fides, one of the reasons I do not write about this much anymore is that I am sick to death of a movement who (A) Still naively insists on negotiating with the enemy, I.E. Socialists/Liberals and their feminist tools (Glenn Sacks) or (B) is turning into a mirror feminist movement - Meninists, if you will.

Some men are scum.  And just as I sneer at feminists who rush to the defense of women for being women, I am disgusted by a movement that does the same thing with the sexes merely changed.

The evidence is overwhelming.  Steve McNair was shot by a gun purchased by his mistress - shot four times.  She was shot by it.  There was powder burns on her hand; not on his.  She was shot once in the head.  She fell and landed on the gun.  Despite the protests that they don’t have a motive How’s this, assholes:  His wife didn’t know about the affair.  She thought McNair was going to leave his wife.  He probably told her, after her DUI in the Escalade he bought for her, that he wasn’t going to leave his wife and family for a 20 year old piece of irresponsible fluff.  Bang, bang, bang, bang.  What have I done?  Bang.  Not a great leap in intuitive thought.

Steve McNair was the victim in a murder suicide; he was cut down by his mistress in an act of domestic violence.  This is deplorable.  There is no excuse for this action by her, and I can only smugly assure myself that this bitch is now roasting in hell for adultery, murder, and suicide.  Whatever her motivations, the minute she resorted to violence when other options were available - hell, when no matter what he did short of attacking her did not, and cannot, justify violence - she became just another perp who deserves no sympathy.  She forfeited it when she pulled that trigger.  And she bought that gun two days before - this was fucking planned, she bought is right after her arrest, probably knew McNair was probably fixing to end it because of that, and determined then to kill him.

May her grave be unmarked, and her passing unnoted.

Despite all this, Steve McNair was scum.  Absolute filth.

Now, some people will probably take me to task for “hypocrisy,” or some bullshit, I started dating other women when my wives and I separated.  The divorce was well and truly in the works.  The papers were filed, and it was OVER in any real sense of the word.  Since I have little respect for the state, waiting for the state to “process” the paperwork is a triviality.  The divorce occurred when I said “I’m gone,” and “Bitch, leave.)  It was over with number one when she said “I have a girlfriend.”  So, in advance, fuck you and your state-worshipping, legalistic, hyper-technical sanctimony.

An adulterous affair is trying to have your cake and eat it too, keeping your avowed spouse, and having a little something-something on the side.  McNair did this, and though he did not deserve to be murdered, it is a predictable consequence.  It happens a lot.  You should know this, which is a pragmatic reason for not sticking your dick in some strange.

McNair got what he had coming to him.  That doesn’t make him not a victim.  It makes him a fucking idiot in addition to being a victim, as well as an immoral scumbag.

Me and the aforementioned Glenn Sacks had a go round on this a couple years back when a guy was fucked in a divorce over assets and custody and he got a gun and shot the judge, and maybe even the wife - I don’t remember the details.  Like most left-leaning folks, he sees blame as a zero sum game.  Darren Mack.  That was the clown.  I, on the other hand, can fully blame Darren Mack - but I also ask, “What the fuck do you expect when there is a systematic fucking over of a class of people?”  You know, I could walk around bitchslapping people, and vandalizing their shit.  Sooner or later, someone is going to produce a pistol or a shotgun, and let me have it.  That my actions didn’t justify being shot, or maybe killed, is immaterial to the fact that I was being a dick, and that consequence is predictable.  I was being stupid, and asking for it.

If someone goes around carrying a lot of cash and flashing it in the wrong spot, it’s dumb as a sack of hammers.  You’ll wind up robbed.  Dress like a tramp, leave your panties at home, run around alone and consuming vast quantities of intoxicants, all the while flirting and table dancing - sorry you woke up covered in cum, and etc - but what the fuck do you expect?  The gay guy who has indiscriminate and anonymous unprotected sex with a lot of men - turns up with AIDS.  Sorry - but you are also a dumbass. That’s why you don’t do stupid shit that puts you in that high-risk situation.  Because it is stupid.  It always ends badly eventually - robbed, beat up, raped, or murdered.  Don’t be a moron.  Don’t be a dick.  It is not that hard.  Yeah, in a perfect world - whatever.  We don’t live in a perfect world today.  Tomorrow isn’t looking real good for that either.  Grow the fuck up.

So, as a matter of philosophical consistency, my sympathy for Steve McNair is purely academic and intellectual.  I feel more sorry for hs wife - who he fucked over - and for his kids, who will live forever knowing “Daddy was murdered by the woman he was screwing on the side.”  And who also will know that any other side there is won’t be a reunion with Dear Old Dad, by a fifty yard line box seat of seeing him buggared by every demon in Hell for his sins as an adulterer, while being slow roasted on a spit.

McNair illustrates the fact that DV against men exists, that women do attack men, and that they can be as deadly, and so it should be taken seriously.  But let’s not make him a poster child.

Now, if he were unmarried, a millionaire living the playboy life - different story.  But he took a vow, before God, and broke it.  And I am not going to cry any tears.  It just means that were are less two scumbags on God’s Earth today, due to Moral Darwinism.